I find that as I get older I am starting to realize all the things my mom did as a child that taught me who to be today. Like Morales, respect, how to care for others, how to protect myself and be aware of all the horrible things in the world. I find myself using many of the techniques my mom used with me, with my own girls. Each time I can’t help but think ” wow, all those times I was so angry with my mom, and it really was for my own good”. Some of the biggest things my mom taught me, have made me who I am.
A huge thing for my mom was lying, which I used to do all the time. Because I didn’t want to get into trouble. When I was younger, my mom was one of my best friends. She would always listen to me, let me talk about boys that I liked. I was allowed to talk on the phone for hours at a time and do 3 way calling with friends. My mom was there the first time a boy ever made me cry, right to the bigger things that happened as I got older. At some point things changed and all the things that used to be ok, were no longer allowed. I began lying all the time bout most things that I did, even though I didn’t really do anything bad. I was pretty good kid, with a good head on my shoulders, thanks to my mom. My mom always told me that lying was one of the worst things I could do. That it would hurt everyone around me and get me no where in life. She told me it was always better to tell than truth even if it would hurt someone. That once you start lying you cause betrayal and that is a very hard thing to move past in any relationship. Today I don’t lie, I have been this way for a long time. Of course maybe an occasional white lie here and there to the kids. I pride myself in telling the truth and being honest and I do believe it is the #1 key factor in any relationship. If you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything.
My mom was very big on teaching me about the dangers of everyday life. She would show me videos on rape and constantly talk to me about what was right and wrong. That if anybody ever did anything to me, to always tell her or an adult I trusted. She taught me to be aware of my surroundings, always looking behind to make sure no one was following me when I was walking etc. I hated that she always had me check in and call when I got somewhere and when I was leaving, but now understand why. Now I have so many thanks for things my mother taught me. I was so aware of bad situations, that it was easy for me to recognize them and remove myself. She taught me about being respectful of myself and dressing classy, taking pride in myself. These are all things that I still follow today. She taught me about my intuition and to always follow my instinct. That it would never be wrong, I actually think of it as like a super power. All these years and it hasn’t been wrong yet!
My mom is one of the strongest women that I know! Everything I learned from her made me the strong individual that I am today. I watched my mom go through hell and back during our childhood years. I watched her be treated horribly by spouses and she never stood for it. She always stood up for herself, I always thought to myself as a kid “I hope I’m as strong as her one day.” Still to this day my mother is there whenever I need her. Whether I’m feeling down and just need to talk, or need advice on what to do with the kids. She was there for the births of both of my girls. She is there for all of my kids, she has never shown a difference to my stepchildren. They are all her grandchildren and she loves them dearly. When she does see them, she laughs with them and has fun, she shows them her crazy fun side that I always saw as a kid. She spoils them like crazy, and loves them even more. What I love is that she gives my girls advice that she gave me as a kid, which shaped everything about me. My kids look up to her and they love all the things she tells them. She has a special bond with Aiden, he gets so excited when he knows we are seeing her and he loves how upset grandma gets when he gets hurt by people. It’s not just me who’s lucky to have her, it’s my whole family! Anything we need, we always know she is just a call away.
So thank you mom! for shaping me, loving me, showing me right and wrong. For always being there for me no matter what it may be. For dropping everything in an emergency situation and running to my side. I love you more than you will ever know! I am and will always be here for you no matter what. I’m just a call away!